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<html> <head> <meta http-equiv="Content-Language" content="en-us"> <meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=windows-1252"> <title>K&#7929; n&#259;ng giao ti&#7871;p &#7913;ng x&#7917;</title> <style> <!-- p.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin-bottom:.0001pt; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:VNI-Times; margin-left:0cm; margin-right:0cm; margin-top:0cm} --> </style> </head> <body> <p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: center"><b> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2" color="#0000FF">K&#7929; n&#259;ng giao ti&#7871;p &#7913;ng x&#7917;</font></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng, trong giao ti&#7871;p hàng ngày con ng&#432;&#7901;i luôn ph&#7843;i &#7913;ng phó v&#7899;i bi&#7871;t bao tình hu&#7889;ng, có lúc d&#7877; dàng x&#7917; lý, có lúc th&#7853;t ph&#7913;c t&#7841;p, khó x&#7917;. Xã h&#7897;i càng v&#259;n minh thì nhu c&#7847;u trong giao ti&#7871;p c&#7911;a con ng&#432;&#7901;i càng cao. &#7912;ng x&#7917; m&#7897;t cách thông minh, khôn khéo, t&#7871; nh&#7883;, k&#7883;p th&#7901;i, có hi&#7879;u qu&#7843;, &#273;&#7841;t t&#7899;i m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; ngh&#7879; thu&#7853;t, ngày nay còn &#273;&#432;&#7907;c coi nh&#432; bí quy&#7871;t thành công trong cu&#7897;c &#273;&#7901;i, trong công vi&#7879;c khi b&#7841;n là m&#7897;t cán b&#7897; ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng &#272;oàn trong thanh thi&#7871;u niên.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: -6.0pt"><b> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Nguyên t&#7855;c &#7913;ng x&#7917;:</font></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: -12.0pt"><b> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;</font></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 1.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Hãy ti&#7871;p c&#7853;n v&#7899;i con ng&#432;&#7901;i &#7903; góc &#273;&#7897; không t&#7889;t, không x&#7845;u:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Không có ai là ng&#432;&#7901;i hoàn toàn x&#7845;u c&#7843;. Khi &#273;ánh giá con ng&#432;&#7901;i c&#7909; th&#7875; chúng ta th&#432;&#7901;ng b&#7883; nh&#7919;ng cách nhìn t&#297;nh t&#7841;i, x&#417; c&#7913;ng, b&#7883; &#273;&#7883;nh ki&#7871;n che l&#7845;p, ít khi tách ra &#273;&#432;&#7907;c dù ch&#7881; là t&#432;&#417;ng &#273;&#7889;i &#273;&#7847;y &#273;&#7911; nh&#7919;ng &#432;u &#273;i&#7875;m, nh&#432;&#7907;c &#273;i&#7875;m c&#7911;a h&#7885; và l&#7841;i càng không xác &#273;&#7883;nh &#273;&#432;&#7907;c gi&#7899;i h&#7841;n, hoàn c&#7843;nh, di&#7877;n bi&#7871;n có th&#7875; có c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng &#432;u &#273;i&#7875;m và nh&#432;&#7907;c &#273;i&#7875;m &#273;ó. Con ng&#432;&#7901;i c&#361;ng d&#7877; b&#7883; chi ph&#7889;i b&#7903;i qui lu&#7853;t c&#7843;m xúc “yêu nên t&#7889;t, ghét nên x&#7845;u”. K&#7871;t qu&#7843; là d&#7877; m&#7855;c sai l&#7847;m trong giao ti&#7871;p. Do v&#7853;y nguyên t&#7855;c &#273;&#7847;u tiên trong ngh&#7879; thu&#7853;t &#7913;ng x&#7917; là hãy ti&#7871;p c&#7853;n v&#7899;i con ng&#432;&#7901;i &#7903; góc &#273;&#7897; không t&#7889;t, không x&#7845;u.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&#7902; nguyên t&#7855;c này, m&#7895;i ng&#432;&#7901;i có th&#7875; t&#7921; tìm cho mình m&#7897;t cách &#7913;ng x&#7917; thành công, ta t&#7841;m chia thành các b&#432;&#7899;c sau:</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">B&#432;&#7899;c 1:</font></span></i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2"> Hãy th&#7915;a nh&#7853;n (ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n).</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">B&#432;&#7899;c 2:</font></span></i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2"> Bi&#7871;t l&#7855;ng nghe ý ki&#7871;n, tìm ra ch&#7895; m&#7841;nh, ch&#7895; y&#7871;u c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i. Th&#7845;y cái m&#7841;nh, l&#7907;i th&#7871; c&#7911;a ta (cái ta có mà ng&#432;&#7901;i không có).</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">B&#432;&#7899;c 3:</font></span></i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2"> T&#7841;o ra s&#7921; &#273;&#7891;ng c&#7843;m, gây ni&#7873;m tin (hi&#7875;u bi&#7871;t l&#7851;n nhau, gây s&#7921; tin t&#432;&#7903;ng).</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">B&#432;&#7899;c 4: </font></span></i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Tìm &#273;i&#7875;m chung, m&#7895;i bên &#273;&#7873;u th&#7845;y &#273;&#432;&#7907;c cái l&#7907;i, cái vui và cách c&#7897;ng tác, t&#432;&#417;ng lai c&#7911;a s&#7921; c&#7897;ng tác &#273;ó.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">B&#432;&#7899;c 5:</font></span></i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2"> T&#7841;o d&#432; lu&#7853;n &#7911;ng h&#7897;, xây d&#7921;ng m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; thân tình.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 2.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">L&#432;&#7901;ng m&#7885;i &#273;i&#7873;u, tính &#273;&#7871;n m&#7885;i kh&#7843; n&#259;ng v&#7899;i nhi&#7873;u ph&#432;&#417;ng án:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">N&#7871;u trong m&#7895;i con ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&#7873;u có nh&#7919;ng giá tr&#7883; d&#432;&#417;ng (+) (nh&#7919;ng &#273;&#7913;c tín t&#7889;t, nh&#7919;ng m&#7863;t m&#7841;nh, nh&#7919;ng &#432;u &#273;i&#7875;m…) và có c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng giá tr&#7883; âm (-) (nh&#7919;ng tính x&#7845;u, nh&#7919;ng m&#7863;t y&#7871;u, nh&#7919;ng khuy&#7871;t &#273;i&#7875;m…) thì v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i này có th&#7875; t&#7899;i 90 (+), có 10 (-) ho&#7863;c &#7903; ng&#432;&#7901;i khác có th&#7875; &#273;&#7841;t 99 (+) ch&#7881; có 1 (-). V&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; là &#7903; ch&#7895; c&#7847;n ph&#7843;i bi&#7871;t nhìn ra “d&#7845;u c&#7897;ng” trong c&#7843; kh&#7889;i “d&#7845;u tr&#7915;” và phát hi&#7879;n k&#7883;p th&#7901;i “d&#7845;u tr&#7915;” trong “vô kh&#7889;i d&#7845;u c&#7897;ng” &#273;&#7875; có th&#7875; d&#7921; &#273;oán &#273;&#432;&#7907;c tác &#273;&#7897;ng có h&#7841;i c&#7911;a m&#7863;t trái “d&#7845;u tr&#7915;” mà kh&#7903;i th&#7911;y c&#7911;a nó ch&#7881; là m&#7897;t ch&#7845;m nh&#7887; r&#7845;t m&#7901; nh&#7841;t trong c&#7843; kh&#7889;i “d&#7845;u c&#7897;ng”.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&#272;i&#7873;u quan tr&#7885;ng h&#417;n trong phép &#7913;ng x&#7917; là tìm ra nh&#7919;ng ch&#7845;t xúc tác &#273;&#7875; kích thích ph&#7843;n &#7913;ng &#273;&#7893;i d&#7845;u tích c&#7921;c x&#7843;y ra theo h&#432;&#7899;ng 1 (+) tr&#7903; thành n (+) và n (-) gi&#7843;m xu&#7889;ng còn 1 (-).</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 3.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">N&#7855;m b&#7855;t ngh&#7879; thu&#7853;t theo nhu c&#7847;u:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&#272;i&#7873;u khó nh&#7845;t trong giao ti&#7871;p &#7913;ng x&#7917; là &#273;&#7889;i t&#432;&#7907;ng th&#7901; &#417;, không có nhu c&#7847;u. B&#7841;n s&#7869; &#7913;ng x&#7917; nh&#432; th&#7871; nào khi &#273;&#7889;i t&#432;&#7907;ng không mu&#7889;n nói chuy&#7879;n, không mu&#7889;n nghe b&#7841;n can ng&#259;n, không mu&#7889;n h&#7907;p tác v&#7899;i b&#7841;n v.v…?</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Hãy g&#7907;i trí tò mò ho&#7863;c cho h&#7885; th&#7845;y cái l&#7907;i, cái vui mà b&#7841;n &#273;ang có, còn ng&#432;&#7901;i &#7845;y &#273;ang thi&#7871;u, &#273;ang c&#7847;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Ch&#7881; cho h&#7885; b&#7857;ng cách nào &#273;ó, th&#7845;y tia hy v&#7885;ng vào k&#7871;t qu&#7843;, gây thi&#7879;n c&#7843;m, t&#7841;o s&#7921; tin t&#432;&#7903;ng.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Giao trách nhi&#7879;m m&#7897;t cách công khai, t&#7841;o ra tình hu&#7889;ng ch&#7881; có ti&#7871;n ch&#7913; không có lùi, ràng bu&#7897;c b&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng s&#7907;i dây vô hình v&#7873; quan h&#7879; nào &#273;ó &#273;ã &#273;&#432;&#7907;c hình thành.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Gây ni&#7873;m say mê, tìm &#273;&#432;&#7907;c ý ngh&#297;a trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng, công vi&#7879;c &#273;ang ti&#7871;n hành.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">C&#7911;ng c&#7889; ni&#7873;m tin, thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c v&#7873; m&#7897;t k&#7871;t c&#7909;c t&#7889;t &#273;&#7865;p.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Ph&#7843;i t&#7841;o ra s&#7921; an toàn, bi&#7871;t cách ch&#7889;ng &#273;&#7905; d&#432; lu&#7853;n, t&#7841;o d&#432; lu&#7853;n m&#7899;i &#7911;ng h&#7897;.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Tính &#273;&#7871;n nhi&#7873;u ph&#432;&#417;ng án, ch&#7885;n ph&#432;&#417;ng án h&#7907;p v&#7899;i mình nh&#7845;t, có th&#7875; t&#7841;o ra nh&#7919;ng v&#7845;p ngã nh&#7887; &#273;&#7875; luy&#7879;n t&#7853;p b&#7843;n l&#297;nh, ch&#7911; &#273;&#7897;ng &#273;&#7873; phòng tính t&#7921; kiêu.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Trong nh&#7919;ng tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p c&#7909; th&#7875; &#273;òi h&#7887;i m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i ph&#7843;i bi&#7871;t &#7913;ng bi&#7871;n và &#273;i&#7873;u quan tr&#7885;ng h&#417;n là hãy tìm cho &#273;&#432;&#7907;c s&#417; &#273;&#7891; &#273;i t&#7899;i thành công riêng c&#7911;a mình.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: -6.0pt"><b> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; II.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">M&#7897;t s&#7889; cách &#7913;ng x&#7917;:</font></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 1.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Th&#7911; thu&#7853;t “ném &#273;á th&#259;m &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng”:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Có b&#7841;n trai tâm s&#7921;: &#272;&#7871;n d&#7921; &#273;ám c&#432;&#7899;i m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n, tôi &#273;ã g&#7863;p m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i con gái mà tôi th&#7847;m m&#417; &#432;&#7899;c, tôi r&#7845;t mu&#7889;n làm quen v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i con gái &#7845;y nh&#432;ng không bi&#7871;t ph&#7843;i b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u nh&#432; th&#7871; nào?</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Có l&#7869; tr&#432;&#7899;c tiên nên b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u vào &#273;&#7873; t&#7915; cùng m&#7897;t h&#7913;ng thú. Ch&#7859;ng h&#7841;n có th&#7875; t&#7915; m&#7897;t b&#7913;c tranh, m&#7897;t b&#7843;n nh&#7841;c, m&#7897;t ca khúc m&#7899;i &#273;&#432;&#7907;c m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i yêu thích, hay m&#7897;t b&#7897; phim m&#7899;i, m&#7897;t quy&#7875;n sách m&#7899;i, m&#7897;t m&#7889;t qu&#7847;n áo m&#7899;i… nh&#7919;ng cái &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng bi&#7871;t rõ và có ph&#7843;n &#7913;ng tích c&#7921;c. Ho&#7863;c có th&#7875; t&#7915; m&#7897;t &#273;i&#7875;m chung nào &#273;ó v&#7873; h&#7885;c t&#7853;p, vi&#7879;c làm… B&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u t&#7915; nh&#7919;ng câu chuy&#7879;n không quan tr&#7885;ng l&#7855;m &#273;&#7875; làm m&#7845;t &#273;i s&#7921; c&#259;ng th&#7859;ng và ng&#259;n cách gi&#7919;a hai ng&#432;&#7901;i và qua &#273;ó b&#7841;n có th&#7875; hi&#7875;u thêm v&#7873; ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n mà ta mu&#7889;n g&#7847;n g&#361;i (nh&#7919;ng s&#7903; thích, thói quen, cá tính…) có m&#7897;t s&#417; &#273;&#7891; giao ti&#7871;p sau &#273;ây:</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">a.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Giai &#273;o&#7841;n tr&#432;&#7899;c khi giao ti&#7871;p:</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Xác &#273;&#7883;nh m&#7909;c &#273;ích, làm quen &#273;&#7889;i t&#432;&#7907;ng và gây &#7845;n t&#432;&#7907;ng t&#7889;t</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&#272;ánh giá &#273;&#7889;i t&#432;&#7907;ng, hoàn c&#7843;nh:</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">+</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">S&#7903; thích,thói quen, cá tính.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">+</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Th&#7901;i gian, không gian cu&#7897;c g&#7863;p.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">+</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Có hay không có ng&#432;&#7901;i gi&#7899;i thi&#7879;u.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">L&#7921;a ch&#7885;n ph&#432;&#417;ng án &#7913;ng x&#7917;:</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">+</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tìm c&#7899; làm quen cho h&#7907;p lý, t&#7871; nh&#7883;.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">+</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Ngôn ng&#7919;, c&#7917; ch&#7881; d&#7877; c&#7843;m m&#7871;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">+</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">V&#259;n phong g&#7847;n g&#361;i, không quá tr&#7883;nh tr&#7885;ng nh&#432;ng c&#361;ng không su&#7891;ng sã.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">+</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tính tr&#432;&#7899;c nh&#7919;ng tình hu&#7889;ng b&#7845;t ng&#7901; có th&#7875; x&#7843;y ra &#273;&#7875; &#7913;ng x&#7917; nhanh.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">b.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Giai &#273;o&#7841;n giao ti&#7871;p:</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Nên:</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Phá b&#7847;u không khí xa l&#7841; b&#7857;ng vi&#7879;c h&#7887;i han ho&#7863;c nh&#7919;ng câu nói &#273;ùa.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Tìm ch&#7911; &#273;&#7873; chung, ít ch&#7841;m &#273;&#7871;n quan &#273;i&#7875;m cá nhân.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Nói ít v&#7873; mình. Chú ý quan sát c&#7917; ch&#7881;, &#273;i&#7879;u b&#7897;, nét m&#7863;t c&#7911;a &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Gi&#7899;i h&#7841;n cu&#7897;c giao ti&#7871;p trong ph&#7841;m vi v&#7915;a &#273;&#7911;, d&#7915;ng &#273;úng lúc.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Nêu ra nh&#7919;ng câu h&#7887;i th&#259;m dò, ch&#7911; &#273;&#7897;ng g&#7907;i chuy&#7879;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">T&#7921; tin.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Không nên:</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">V&#7897;i vã &#273;i vào v&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; chính.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&#272;&#7863;t nh&#7919;ng câu h&#7887;i liên quan nhi&#7873;u &#273;&#7871;n cá nhân.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Nói nhi&#7873;u v&#7873; mình, d&#7889;c b&#7847;u tâm s&#7921;, nói th&#7859;ng v&#7873; mình khi &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng &#273;&#7863;t nh&#7919;ng câu h&#7887;i th&#259;m dò.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Chuy&#7879;n lan man, kéo dài cu&#7897;c giao ti&#7871;p.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Khích bác ho&#7863;c công kích nói x&#7845;u m&#7897;t ai &#273;ó.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">R&#7909;t rè, l&#7843;ng tránh, &#7845;p úng.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 2.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng c&#7847;n &#273;&#7889;i &#273;áp m&#7873;m m&#7887;ng, ý ngh&#297;a sâu xa:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Dân gian có câu:</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: center"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">“L&#7901;i nói ch&#7859;ng m&#7845;t ti&#7873;n mua</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: center"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">L&#7921;a l&#7901;i mà nói cho v&#7915;a lòng nhau”.</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&#272;&#7889;i v&#7899;i nhi&#7873;u ý ki&#7871;n phê bình, ph&#7843;n &#273;&#7889;i c&#7911;a &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng, không nên &#273;áp l&#7841;i b&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i nói h&#7857;n h&#7885;c, n&#7863;ng n&#7873; mà nhi&#7873;u khi nên dùng l&#7901;i nói nh&#7865; nhàng nh&#432;ng ch&#7913;a &#273;&#7921;ng nh&#7919;ng ý ngh&#297;a sâu xa.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 3.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng ph&#7843;i chuy&#7875;n b&#7841;i thành th&#7855;ng:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng &#273;&#7901;i th&#432;&#7901;nng nhi&#7873;u khi ta b&#7883; &#273;&#7849;y vào tình hu&#7889;ng b&#7845;t l&#7907;i, có nguy c&#417; th&#7845;t b&#7841;i, lúc &#273;ó &#273;òi h&#7887;i ph&#7843;i bình t&#297;nh, suy ngh&#297; ngay &#273;&#7871;n nh&#7919;ng h&#7853;u qu&#7843; x&#7845;u nh&#7845;t có th&#7875; x&#7843;y ra (chu&#7849;n b&#7883; tâm th&#7871; s&#7861;n sàng ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n). Tìm xem có cách gì &#273;&#7875; h&#7841;n ch&#7871; m&#7913;c th&#7845;p nh&#7845;t nh&#7919;ng tác h&#7841;i (ví d&#7909;: &#273;i&#7873;u gì &#273;ã &#273;&#7849;y ta vào tình th&#7871; b&#7845;t l&#7907;i, có cách nào t&#7841;o &#273;&#432;&#7907;c k&#7871; hoãn binh có v&#7867; ít liên quan, nh&#432;ng n&#7871;u &#273;&#432;&#7907;c “&#273;&#7883;ch th&#7911;” s&#7861;n sàng ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n thì chính &#273;i&#7873;u có v&#7867; không liên quan &#273;ó có th&#7875; thay &#273;&#7893;i tình th&#7871;…).</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 4.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng dùng hài h&#432;&#7899;c:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">“Khi b&#7841;n n&#7893;i cáu ta hãy &#273;ùa l&#7841;i m&#7897;t câu” (Laphôngten).</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Hài h&#432;&#7899;c là m&#7897;t nhân t&#7889; c&#7921;c k&#7923; quan tr&#7885;ng trong ngôn ng&#7919; giao ti&#7871;p. &#272;ó là “chi&#7871;c van an toàn” cho m&#7885;i cu&#7897;c xung &#273;&#7897;t, là chìa khóa &#273;&#7875; m&#7903; “cánh c&#7917;a lòng”. L&#7901;i &#273;&#7889;i &#273;áp khôn ngoan, thông minh, dùng ngôn ng&#7919; hài h&#432;&#7899;c &#273;&#7875; phê phán th&#432;&#7901;ng mang l&#7841;i hi&#7879;u qu&#7843; l&#7899;n h&#417;n nhi&#7873;u. B&#7903;i th&#7871; khi k&#7875; m&#7897;t câu chuy&#7879;n c&#432;&#7901;i ho&#7863;c m&#7897;t l&#7901;i &#273;&#7889;i &#273;áp có n&#7897;i dung, cách nói hài h&#432;&#7899;c th&#432;&#7901;ng làm cho không khí vui nh&#7897;n, &#273;i&#7873;u ti&#7871;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c tình c&#7843;m, nh&#7855;c khéo ng&#432;&#7901;i khác mà không làm h&#7885; b&#7921;c mình. T&#7845;t nhiên c&#361;ng không nên l&#7841;m d&#7909;ng nó.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Quy lu&#7853;t ph&#7893; bi&#7871;n c&#7911;a truy&#7879;n hài h&#432;&#7899;c là m&#7903; &#273;&#7847;u d&#7851;n d&#7855;t và hình thành làm cho ng&#432;&#7901;i ta nghi v&#7845;n. Ng&#432;&#7901;i k&#7875; nên có ng&#7919; &#273;i&#7879;u bình th&#432;&#7901;ng, sau &#273;ó t&#259;ng thêm tình ti&#7871;t nghi ho&#7863;c và gi&#7843;i quy&#7871;t b&#7845;t ng&#7901;.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 5.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng ph&#7843;i &#273;i th&#7859;ng vào v&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; khi c&#7847;n thi&#7871;t:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng có tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p không th&#7875; quanh co, bóng gió, t&#7871; nh&#7883; mà ph&#7843;i bày t&#7887; quan &#273;i&#7875;m, thái &#273;&#7897; c&#7911;a mình m&#7897;t cách th&#7859;ng th&#7855;n, kiên quy&#7871;t. Lúc &#273;ó ph&#7843;i di&#7877;n &#273;&#7841;t vào th&#7859;ng n&#7897;i dung chính c&#7911;a v&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; &#273;&#7875; bi&#7875;u hi&#7879;n ý chí và lòng tin &#7903; b&#7843;n thân. &#272;&#7889;i v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng v&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; then ch&#7889;t không nên t&#7887; ra quá cân nh&#7855;c, &#273;&#7855;n &#273;o làm cho ng&#432;&#7901;i nghe c&#7843;m th&#7845;y thi&#7871;u tin t&#432;&#7903;ng, do d&#7921;. T&#7845;t nhiên &#273;&#7875; nói b&#7857;ng cách này c&#7847;n ph&#7843;i suy ngh&#297;, cân nh&#7855;c th&#7853;t k&#7929; càng.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 6.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng nói &#7849;n ý b&#7857;ng ng&#7909; ngôn:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Trong giao ti&#7871;p khi c&#7843;m th&#7845;y khó thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c ng&#432;&#7901;i khác b&#7857;ng lý l&#7869; tr&#7921;c ti&#7871;p ho&#7863;c c&#7843;m th&#7845;y d&#7877; b&#7883; ph&#7843;n &#7913;ng, không ti&#7879;n nói th&#7859;ng ra, thì ng&#432;&#7901;i ta th&#432;&#7901;ng dùng ph&#432;&#417;ng pháp &#7849;n ý b&#7857;ng ng&#7909; ngôn. T&#7913;c là ch&#7885;n nh&#7919;ng câu chuy&#7879;n ng&#7909; ngôn có n&#7897;i dung &#7849;n ý bên trong phù h&#7907;p v&#7899;i m&#7909;c &#273;ích khuyên r&#259;n, thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c c&#7911;a mình &#273;&#7875; k&#7875; cho &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng nghe.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Cái l&#7907;i c&#7911;a ph&#432;&#417;ng pháp này là ng&#432;&#7901;i nghe ph&#7843;i suy ngh&#297; m&#7899;i hi&#7875;u h&#7871;t cái &#7849;n ý bên trong &#273;ó. B&#7843;n thân câu chuy&#7879;n s&#7869; &#273;&#432;a ra nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i khuyên sâu s&#7855;c ch&#7913; không ph&#7843;i ng&#432;&#7901;i k&#7875; chuy&#7879;n, do &#273;ó không có lý do &#273;&#7875; n&#7893;i khùng, t&#7921; ái ho&#7863;c m&#7863;c c&#7843;m.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Tuy nhiên &#273;&#7875; dùng ph&#432;&#417;ng pháp này có hi&#7879;u qu&#7843;, ng&#432;&#7901;i dùng ph&#432;&#417;ng pháp này ph&#7843;i am hi&#7875;u câu chuy&#7879;n phù h&#7907;p v&#7899;i trình &#273;&#7897; ng&#432;&#7901;i nghe, n&#7871;u ng&#432;&#7901;i nghe không hi&#7875;u gì c&#7843;, s&#7869; không có tác d&#7909;ng.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 7.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng ph&#7843;n bác khéo nh&#7919;ng yêu c&#7847;u vô lý &#7903; ng&#432;&#7901;i khác:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">C&#361;ng có lúc b&#7841;n g&#7863;p nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&#259;ng kh&#259;ng &#273;&#432;a ra cho b&#7841;n nh&#7919;ng &#273;òi h&#7887;i vô lý không th&#7875; th&#7921;c hi&#7879;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c. Tr&#432;&#7899;c nh&#7919;ng tình hu&#7889;ng &#273;ó nhi&#7873;u khi ta không th&#7875; bác b&#7887; th&#7859;ng th&#7915;ng vì ch&#7841;m lòng t&#7921; ái ho&#7863;c ng&#432;&#7901;i không th&#7887;a mãn v&#7899;i ta r&#7891;i ti&#7871;p t&#7909;c qu&#7845;y r&#7889;i n&#7919;a vá cách &#273;ó c&#361;ng ch&#432;a làm cho ng&#432;&#7901;i t&#7921; nh&#7853;n th&#7845;y &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nh&#7919;ng &#273;òi h&#7887;i c&#7911;a h&#7885; là vô lý.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">V&#7853;y ta s&#7869; x&#7917; lý th&#7871; nào trong tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p &#273;ó? T&#7889;t nh&#7845;t là hãy th&#7915;a nh&#7853;n &#273;ã, sau &#273;ó khéo léo ch&#7881; ra s&#7921; vô lý ho&#7863;c &#273;i&#7873;u không th&#7875; th&#7921;c hi&#7879;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c. C&#361;ng có th&#7875; c&#7843;nh t&#7881;nh ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;ó b&#7857;ng vi&#7879;c ch&#7881; ra nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u b&#7845;t l&#7907;i, s&#7921; nguy hi&#7875;m n&#7871;u ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;ó c&#7913; gi&#7919; nguyên ý ki&#7871;n, nh&#7855;m m&#7855;t hành &#273;&#7897;ng. Chú ý ngôn ng&#7919; không nên gay g&#7855;t nh&#432;ng t&#7887; ra c&#432;&#417;ng quy&#7871;t.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 8.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng th&#7915;a nh&#7853;n tr&#432;&#7899;c &#273;&#7875; chuy&#7875;n h&#432;&#7899;ng sau:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">N&#7871;u khi b&#7841;n không &#273;&#7891;ng ý v&#7899;i ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng mà ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;ó l&#7841;i là c&#7845;p trên, ng&#432;&#7901;i l&#7899;n tu&#7893;i, cha m&#7865;… thì b&#7841;n s&#7869; x&#7917; s&#7921; nh&#432; th&#7871; nào? Vi&#7879;c thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c &#273;&#7875; &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng nghe theo mình, có ngh&#297;a là ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a mình c&#361;ng &#273;òi h&#7887;i ph&#7843;i có m&#7897;t ngh&#7879; thu&#7853;t nh&#7845;t &#273;&#7883;nh.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">B&#7841;n ch&#7899; ph&#7843;n &#273;&#7889;i và phê phán các ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng. B&#7841;n hãy ti&#7871;p thu ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a h&#7885;, bi&#7875;u th&#7883; thái &#273;&#7897; &#273;&#7891;ng c&#7843;m &#7903; m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; nào &#273;ó &#273;&#7875; có th&#7875; làm gi&#7843;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c s&#7921; c&#7913;ng nh&#7855;c c&#7911;a &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng, khi&#7871;n h&#7885; b&#7857;ng lòng nghe ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a b&#7841;n. Song ph&#7843;i n&#7855;m v&#7919;ng nguyên t&#7855;c không &#273;&#432;&#7907;c t&#7887; thái &#273;&#7897; c&#7911;a mình ngang b&#7857;ng v&#7899;i &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng &#273;&#7875; ti&#7871;p sau &#273;ó dùng l&#7901;i mà chuy&#7875;n h&#432;&#7899;ng, thay &#273;&#7893;i cách nhìn nh&#7853;n c&#7911;a &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng, làm h&#7885; b&#7857;ng lòng ti&#7871;p thu ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a b&#7841;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 9.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng c&#7847;n b&#7841;n &#273;&#7891;ng minh:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Khi tranh lu&#7853;n tr&#432;&#7899;c nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i c&#7847;n th&#7875; hi&#7879;n quan &#273;i&#7875;m, b&#7841;n nên chú ý &#273;&#7847;y &#273;&#7911; &#273;&#7871;n thái &#273;&#7897; c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh, c&#7847;n &#273;&#7897;ng viên &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i nghe và &#7911;ng h&#7897; quan &#273;i&#7875;m c&#7911;a mình. N&#7871;u ng&#432;&#7901;i nghe &#7911;ng h&#7897; ta, &#273;&#7891;ng tình v&#7899;i quan &#273;i&#7875;m c&#7911;a ta &#273;ang trình bày, s&#7869; t&#7841;o thành m&#7897;t s&#7913;c m&#7841;nh to l&#7899;n, m&#7897;t s&#7913;c ép tinh th&#7847;n làm &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng không ph&#7843;n kích l&#7841;i &#273;&#432;&#7907;c.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Ch&#7859;ng h&#7841;n khi &#273;ang x&#7871;p hàng có ng&#432;&#7901;i chen ngang, b&#7841;n l&#7907;i d&#7909;ng thái &#273;&#7897; c&#7911;a s&#7889; &#273;ông m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh &#273;&#7875; g&#7841;t ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;ó ra kh&#7887;i hàng là h&#7907;p lý nh&#7845;t.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 10.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng không nh&#432;&#7907;ng b&#7897; khi mình có lý trong tranh lu&#7853;n:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Trong quan h&#7879; gi&#7919;a ng&#432;&#7901;i v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i, tranh lu&#7853;n là m&#7897;t &#273;i&#7873;u h&#7871;t s&#7913;c bình th&#432;&#7901;ng và không th&#7875; tránh &#273;&#432;&#7907;c. Không có tranh lu&#7853;n, &#273;i&#7873;u ph&#7843;i trái không &#273;&#432;&#7907;c phân &#273;&#7883;nh. Không th&#7875; coi tranh lu&#7853;n là m&#7897;t thói x&#7845;u mà h&#7841;n ch&#7871; nó.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Song tranh lu&#7853;n có th&#7875; d&#7851;n &#273;&#7871;n s&#7921; không tho&#7843;i mái ho&#7863;c &#273;ôi khi xung &#273;&#7897;t. Tranh lu&#7853;n có ph&#432;&#417;ng pháp s&#7869; &#273;em l&#7841;i k&#7871;t qu&#7843; t&#7889;t là &#273;i&#7873;u chúng ta c&#7847;n chú ý h&#7885;c h&#7887;i.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">M&#7897;t là,</font></span></i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2"> khi tranh lu&#7853;n nên có thái &#273;&#7897; th&#7853;t công b&#7857;ng, &#273;&#7915;ng làm t&#7893;n th&#432;&#417;ng &#273;&#7871;n lòng t&#7921; ái c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i kia. S&#7921; phê phán, bình ph&#7849;m ng&#432;&#7901;i khác không th&#7875; quá m&#7897;t gi&#7899;i h&#7841;n nh&#7845;t &#273;&#7883;nh, n&#7871;u không có th&#7875; làm t&#259;ng thêm mâu thu&#7851;n v&#7889;n có.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Hai là,</font></span></i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2"> gi&#7885;ng nói ph&#7843;i m&#7873;n m&#7887;ng, th&#7853;t lòng. Trong tranh lu&#7853;n ph&#7843;i t&#7887; ra tôn tr&#7885;ng nhau, làm sao cho ng&#432;&#7901;i cùng tranh lu&#7853;n tin r&#7857;ng tranh lu&#7853;n th&#7853;t là có ích. Trong tranh lu&#7853;n nhi&#7873;u khi ng&#432;&#7901;i th&#7855;ng không h&#7859;n &#273;ã là&nbsp; nhi&#7873;u lý l&#7869; bi&#7871;t hùng bi&#7879;n, mà có th&#7875; là ng&#432;&#7901;i có thái &#273;&#7897; &#273;úng m&#7921;c và chân th&#7921;c nh&#7845;t.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Ba là,</font></span></i><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2"> tranh lu&#7853;n ph&#7843;i có m&#7909;c &#273;ích rõ ràng. Tranh lu&#7853;n nên xoay quanh nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u c&#7847;n gi&#7843;i quy&#7871;t.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 0cm"><b><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp; 11.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Tình hu&#7889;ng c&#7847;n thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c b&#7857;ng hành &#273;&#7897;ng:</font></span></i></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: center"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">“M&#7885;i lý thuy&#7871;t &#273;&#7873;u màu xám</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: center"><i> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Còn cây &#273;&#7901;i mãi mãi xanh t&#432;&#417;i”</font></span></i></p> <p class="MsoNormal" align="right" style="text-align: right"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">(G&#417;t)</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Trong giao ti&#7871;p, khi c&#7843;m th&#7845;y khó thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c ng&#432;&#7901;i khác nghe ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a mình b&#7857;ng l&#7901;i nói, b&#7841;n có th&#7875; dùng hành &#273;&#7897;ng &#273;&#7875; thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c. Thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c b&#7857;ng hành &#273;&#7897;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng hi&#7879;u qu&#7843; l&#7899;n nh&#7845;t. Thông qua vi&#7879;c làm, hành &#273;&#7897;ng c&#7909; th&#7875;, ta có th&#7875; làm cho &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng thay &#273;&#7893;i cách ngh&#297;, tình c&#7843;m, thái &#273;&#7897;, ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n ý ki&#7871;n c&#7911;a ta.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">B&#7841;n là m&#7897;t cán b&#7897; phong trào thanh niên. B&#7841;n mu&#7889;n t&#7893; ch&#7913;c các ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng v&#259;n hóa th&#7875; d&#7909;c th&#7875; thao thanh niên nh&#432;ng các c&#7845;p lãnh &#273;&#7841;o &#7903; &#273;&#7883;a ph&#432;&#417;ng ch&#432;a tin t&#432;&#7903;ng vào kh&#7843; n&#259;ng c&#7911;a b&#7841;n, ch&#432;a t&#7841;o &#273;i&#7873;u ki&#7879;n m&#7885;i m&#7863;t &#273;&#7875; b&#7841;n làm vi&#7879;c. B&#7841;n &#273;&#7915;ng n&#7843;n chí và c&#361;ng &#273;&#7915;ng dùng l&#7901;i nói &#273;&#7875; thuy&#7871;t ph&#7909;c. Hãy c&#7889; g&#7855;ng t&#7841;o ra m&#7897;t vài vi&#7879;c làm c&#7909; th&#7875; có hi&#7879;u qu&#7843;. T&#7915; s&#7921; thành công &#273;ã &#273;&#7841;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c, t&#7853;n d&#7909;ng th&#7901;i &#273;i&#7875;m gây h&#432;ng ph&#7845;n cao r&#7891;i &#273;&#432;a ra nh&#7919;ng ki&#7871;n gi&#7843;i h&#7907;p lý v&#7899;i các c&#7845;p lãnh &#273;&#7841;o.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Nh&#432; v&#7853;y, m&#7909;c &#273;ích và k&#7871;t qu&#7843; ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng &#273;&#7841;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c và m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; &#7843;nh h&#432;&#7903;ng c&#7911;a b&#7841;n phát tri&#7875;n t&#7889;t h&#417;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Khi v&#7853;n d&#7909;ng ph&#432;&#417;ng pháp này b&#7841;n c&#7847;n l&#432;u ý:</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">M&#7909;c &#273;ích ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng ph&#7843;i rõ ràng, không v&#7909; l&#7907;i.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Có k&#7871; ho&#7841;ch hành &#273;&#7897;ng chi ti&#7871;t, tính &#273;&#7871;n các &#273;i&#7873;u ki&#7879;n c&#7847;n và &#273;&#7911; &#273;&#7843;m b&#7843;o cho s&#7921; thành công, b&#432;&#7899;c &#273;&#7847;u tiên tránh th&#7845;t b&#7841;i.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">T&#7841;o d&#432; lu&#7853;n &#7911;ng h&#7897; &#273;&#7875; gây s&#7913;c ép ho&#7863;c quy t&#7909; s&#7913;c m&#7841;nh.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Làm th&#7917; &#273;&#7875; ch&#7913;ng minh, rút kinh nghi&#7879;m.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: 6.0pt"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">-</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp; </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">T&#7841;o quan h&#7879; g&#7847;n g&#361;i tin c&#7849;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">N&#7871;u &#7903; vào tình hu&#7889;ng các b&#7853;c “h&#7909; huynh” c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i yêu b&#7841;n còn ch&#432;a tin t&#432;&#7903;ng và ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n cho b&#7841;n yêu con c&#7911;a h&#7885;, thì b&#7841;n c&#361;ng có th&#7875; dùng ph&#432;&#417;ng pháp này &#273;&#7875; &#273;&#7841;t m&#7909;c &#273;ích.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: -6.0pt; margin-left: -6.0pt"><b> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; III.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u nên tránh trong giao ti&#7871;p &#7913;ng x&#7917;:</font></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">1.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Nói n&#7917;a ch&#7915;ng r&#7891;i d&#7915;ng l&#7841;i ho&#7863;c c&#432;&#7899;p l&#7901;i ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;ang nói, làm nhi&#7877;u th&#7913; t&#7921; ho&#7863;c lu&#7891;ng suy ngh&#297; c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;ó.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">2.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Không nói rõ và gi&#7843;i thích &#273;&#7847;y &#273;&#7911; làm ng&#432;&#7901;i nghe c&#7843;m th&#7845;y &#273;&#7897;t ng&#7897;t, khó hi&#7875;u &#273;&#7873; tài nói chuy&#7879;n c&#7911;a b&#7841;n. Không nên &#273;&#432;a nh&#7919;ng tr&#7885;ng tâm, nh&#7919;ng khái quát làm ng&#432;&#7901;i ti&#7871;p chuy&#7879;n khó theo dõi m&#7841;ch chuy&#7879;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">3.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Nói sai &#273;&#7873; tài, không quan tâm &#273;&#7871;n &#273;i&#7873;u mình nói.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">4.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Nói thao thao b&#7845;t tuy&#7879;t, không ng&#7915;ng nêu các câu h&#7887;i làm ng&#432;&#7901;i ti&#7871;p chuy&#7879;n có c&#7843;m giác mình yêu c&#7847;u h&#417;i nhi&#7873;u quá.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">5.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Không tr&#7843; l&#7901;i th&#7859;ng vào câu h&#7887;i mà ng&#432;&#7901;i khác nêu ra, quanh co, dài dòng, gây nên c&#7843;m giác không trung th&#7921;c cho ng&#432;&#7901;i h&#7887;i.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">6.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">T&#7921; cho r&#7857;ng m&#7885;i &#273;i&#7873;u mình &#273;&#7873;u bi&#7871;t c&#7843;.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">7.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Làm ra v&#7867; hi&#7875;u bi&#7871;t sâu r&#7897;ng.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">8.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Phát tri&#7875;n câu chuy&#7879;n không t&#7853;p trung vào ch&#7911; &#273;&#7873; chính làm cho ng&#432;&#7901;i ti&#7871;p chuy&#7879;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y nhàm chán.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">9.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></span><font size="2">Ng&#7855;t b&#7887; h&#7913;ng thú nói chuy&#7879;n c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i khác &#273;&#7875; ép ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;ó ph&#7843;i chuy&#7875;n sang nói v&#7873; &#273;&#7873; tài mà b&#7841;n thích.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">10.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Thì th&#7847;m v&#7899;i m&#7897;t vài ng&#432;&#7901;i trong &#273;ám &#273;ông.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">11.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Dùng ngôn ng&#7919; quá bóng b&#7843;y.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">12.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Chêm nh&#7919;ng câu ti&#7871;ng n&#432;&#7899;c ngoài trong câu nói c&#7911;a mình m&#7897;t cách tùy ti&#7879;n.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">13.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&#272;&#7897;t ng&#7897;t cao gi&#7885;ng.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">14.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Dùng nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i quá su&#7891;ng sã v&#7899;i m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; quan h&#7879;.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">15.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Dùng nh&#7919;ng t&#7915; &#273;&#7879;m không c&#7847;n thi&#7871;t.</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">&nbsp;</font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-indent: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm"> <span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">16.</font><span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-family: Times New Roman"><font size="2"> </font></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial"><font size="2">Nói v&#7899;i gi&#7885;ng khích bác, ch&#7841;m vào lòng t&#7921; ái c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i khác.</font></span></p> </body> </html>

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